I’m not going out on a limb here. Most of us – me included – are regularly too worked up to get ahold of ourselves and settle down. We are unable to be at rest. And by at rest, I don’t just mean the ability to sleep, although THAT certainly is a problem. “40% of...Read More

Which myth have you believed about your calling? Do you mistakenly believe that your calling and career must be identical? Do you hang on to the myth that calling is ultimately about personal fulfillment and happiness? Are you misguided by the idea that when you discover your calling, then you will have arrived? Do you...Read More

I feel like I can’t say this enough… ”You were built to count as water is made to run downhill. You were placed in a specific context to count in ways that no one else does. That is your destiny.”   Dallas Willard, The Divine Conspiracy Whatever your destiny is, it has been “in” you since...Read More

3 weeks ago, I asked these questions in my newsletter and blog post: Why are you here? What is it that gives your life meaning? What generates your sense of purpose? What voice nags at you to contribute to humanity or to the world? These are essential questions here at the two-year mark of this...Read More

Several weeks ago, I began a short blog series exploring the myths that people believe about calling. I have coached hundreds of people over the last several years – NFL players, CEOs, retirees, fraternity guys, soccer moms, etc. and these five myths continue to pop up frequently in our conversations. Myth one: My calling and...Read More

One of the catalysts in the Big Quit, the recent flood of resignations hitting businesses these days, is the dream of having a job that provides more personal meaning. This is a good thing if the end result…the new job… allows an individual to contribute in significant ways to the world. Certainly, the world needs...Read More

This quote is still rumbling around in my head…“When we are no longer able to change a situation… we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning. I referenced that quote in my last post about developing resilience in a time of ambiguous loss. Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, certainly spoke with authority...Read More

It is what it is. Ugh…I can’t stand that phrase. Probably because it sounds too superficial to me. But as glib as it sounds, that expression does capture the shoulder-shrugging reality of the ambiguous losses we’re all facing these days. I’ve been thinking about the lack of resolution imposed upon us by the waves of...Read More

The other day I took my grandson Jude to my office. He loves going there, because the company that has graciously allowed me to have office space also has a break room for its employees. It’s loaded with all kinds of fun activities like Foosball, bumper pool, ping pong, and video games. We had a...Read More

In my last post I reflected on the “losses without conclusion” I and many others are facing in these days of COVID. I was captivated by an interview I heard with social scientist, Dr. Pauline Boss, who has pioneered research on this idea of “ambiguous loss”. Her early work was summarized in the book Ambiguous...Read More